Hi-

My history is unreported rape after (as an adult), severe childhood emotional & verbal abuse, childhood trauma, and an adult abusive(verbal & emotional) realtionship.

Here is my question as to whether I am too sensitive to potention abusive situaions occurring, or I am thinking "normal" for those of us whom have been abused.

I was in a situation where a father allowed his son(15) to sleep in the same bed with a 11 yr old girl (non relative, close friend of male's daughter). I indicated this was inappropriate and I would not allow this if I was the adult in charge. I was told I am over reacting. I demanded the bedroom door remain open, and stated when I wake up during the night, I WILL open it if it is closed. I also suggested the father sleep on a couch directly in view of this bedroom. I was told I am nuts.
I said that I am not accusing anyone of any thing, but hormones are flowing in 15 year old boys, and no matter how "close" the 2 families are, it does not matter as familial CSA occurs.I know the 15 yr old watches porn. (I am not inferring that porn causes CSA, I just meant to say the boy is naturally sexually curious)

I did wake up several times,and looked in. The girl was not under the covers and had her own blanket and was as far away for the boy as she could be. She was also turned away from him and had a sweatshirt on.

Am I paranoid? I felt it was in appropriate, and would NOT have permitted it if it was my home not if I was in charge. If I knew the girl's mother I would have contacted her & asked.

Thoughts, opinions? MY T and pdoc both stated they would not permit their daughters nor sons to be in that situation.

Thanks in advance!