Why do you stay with him? What are you getting out of the relationship? He's controlling, lazy, no work ethic, unhelpful, lies, etc. You can't change him but you can change yourself. He seems to blame you for a lot of ridiculous things.

If I were you I would think long and hard about continuing in a relationship like this. You have turned into more like his mother than his wife and yet you aren't allowed to socialize or have your own friends. If you don't have children together then you are less stuck than a lot of people. Life is too short to live like that.