Thanks monkey & sierra!

Here is the problem, to me....son dictates to father..if father says no, it is a constant whine session. (To me, I would rather hear whining than have something occur) Father caves, son gets his way..

Son must have asked father about this sleeping arrangement earlier in the day, using the excuse they wanted to sleep in air conditioning. (To be honest, the girl is so well behaved respectful, she would have slept anywhere father asked.) I am not allowed in the bedroom per the son, father will not sleep in bedroom as his deceased wife used to sleep in there. Wife put a gun in her mouth & fired, DOA at hospital about a year ago...not at this mountain vacation place, in their day to day home. The one couch was also in the air conditioning.

But of course due to my psych and other issues, father sees me as trying to cause issues where there are none. What he does not see, which I do, is that this child has zero rules, no discipline, and this is doing him any favors in the future. I understand about the suicide, but this is the wat the father acted all of the child's life.