Quoting happiedasiy:

"You asked for advice and you got it, maybe not the answers you were looking for.
The advice you got was the truth. Unbiased, from people who dont know you/parents/boyfriend.
You are 20 and will most likely have more than "one love" in your life before "the one" that will endure with family and children. I am empathetic that you feel torn and taking a break with this boyfriend will be very painful but this will pass.
You are upset, not a time to make critical decisions like moving to live with him. Stay in school so you will be self sufficient young woman, with a degree.
The fact that you want a good relationship with your family accounts to the good job they did with you. Mother may not express emotions/ think about the restrictions she lived under. Every generation brings change. Underneath the hard exterior is a soft woman who wants the best for you. I don't see their point of view on him changing, especially if they are traditional. Too many flaws from the start.
We live and we learn. I liked the advice that suggested an introduction as a friend."



happiedasiy, I have never been so strongly in tune with a reply. I agree with every single word, and I can feel the warmth and compassion in your words, which what we are all looking for when we post.