Right after I started this thread, I had a whole bunch of family stuff to deal with -- some major illnesses with family members and coordinating care and having to take care of some younger family unexpectedly -- and on top of that, my laptop crashed. That sounds crazy to include that as being stressful, but lurking on PC was a great help to me even before I actually signed up and started posting and I missed coming here.

Anyway, I'm back and actually read all of the responses. I appreciate everyone taking the time to offer some perspective. It was really helpful, even if it was critical (not a bad thing). I was insecure at the time of posting, and it's something I struggle with; people wouldn't know that to see me, but it's there.

So, update. I decided to calm myself down and get a grip. Easier said than done. Taking the advice of some, I sent him a "how was your weekend" text. It made me feel vulnerable and sort of needy (not really desperate, but that's a slippery slope sometimes), but I felt like I didn't want to write off a perfectly nice guy because I worry about things that I don't always need to worry about.

Instead of texting me back, he called me a few minutes later and we had a pretty long conversation. Turns out he was nervous about appearing to crowd me AND his sister had an emergency that required hospitalization. He had also purchased some concert tickets for a March show and thought it might seem presumptuous to think we'd be still dating then; he didn't want to freak me out. We've been out a several times since then and have been chugging along slowly but surely. Neither of us is in a rush.

Oh, also, I wanted to mention that there was no incessant texting or FB haunting (kudos to whoever came up with that!). It was more of me knowing that I ascribe meaning to things that may not really be there because of my own issues and wanting another -- or many -- viewpoint of what might have been going on. It was just weird because it just seemed to come out of nowhere.