I wanted to know how come although I have not met the people I know online, one guy has been messing with me claiming he'll do stuff and not doing it and then shutting me out, which ok is as Doc John says a message and with further help ok this guy is just stringing me along. So I am backing as far off from him as possible.

But the question is how come I end up getting emotionally involved with someone I have not met in reality. I tried online dating sites to meet some new people and going in I thought I'd be ok reminding myself in some ways it is all a bit false until you meet the person. But then no matter how I tried I end up with this chap sort of under my skin and well all upset. Where did I go wrong and how come do I get emotionally involved with this person I have not met.

I mean I do know other people online and I do have an emotional attachment to them, ok so far these others have not messed me about but I just worry about how I do get attached to what in someway is just words over a screen.

Also is it better if getting to know anyone to not use chat too much, I mean maybe that is one place I go wrong it can be very informal and with the almost real-time response does this lead to a greater emotional attachment, I just don’t know.

I just wish I knew why I end up with this emotional attachment.

As for the guy who’s upset me I'm backing off, I've told him how I feel but I am keeping my distance while I work myself out and yes I am reducing cyber land time as well to rest from it, but I still don’t understand why I become so emotionally attached to someone I don’t really know and I only meet in cyber-land or how I see it at the moment (as I am dealing w a bit of negative emotions) the cyber-sham?

"I will not fear. Fear is the Mind-killer. Fear is the little death that causes total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. Where it has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain"