I love that quote Dulcinea! I wholeheartedly believe it. I, too went through things that I thought I could never find the good in. However, I have realized that my past tragedies have helped me reach out to others who have gone through something similar. That is a bond that is instantly formed. I can also be grateful that I survived.....just like the old saying goes, what doesn't kill me makes me stronger. I can chose to believe it, and it helps me get through days where I'm living in morbid reflection, thinking about the past. I try to remember that its in the past, nothing I can change about it now but how I look at it. You survived. That's the first piece of gratitude you can pull from the situation.