My t never uses the word "transference," but I think she is very quick to assume that my reactions toward her as based on it (as she calls it, "old stuff.") While my t is often right - I DO tend to have many transference reactions -- sometimes my t says or does something unintentionally that triggers my transference reactions and feels hurtful. At those times, we have discussed it until I felt she understood where I was coming from. On occasion, after discussing it with me, my t has realized that SHE made a mistake that triggered me, and she has apologized. But I think her first reaction is to suspect transference. I do not think she has ever used it as a "weapon" though. I don't think she has ever hurt me on purpose.