I always took my shoes off if I was wearing socks, and I would then put my feet up on the couch, either tucked under me or crossed legged or some other position, whatever was comfortable. If I had bare feet and sandals I would keep my shoes on and suffer with just crossing my legs demurely or putting one over my knee like men often sit.

My T would occasionally take her shoes off as well, and tuck her feet up, too. Sometimes she tucked her feet up without taking her shoes off, but it was her furniture so she could do what she wanted. I never put my shoes on her furniture though.

I liked that she did it as it made the situation more cozy and natural and familiar. I don't like the professional part of therapy.