I'm sorry but I really have to defend your boyfriend here. Lets look at some bullet points
- He told you about his infidelity in another relationship when he didn't have to.
- He told you that he still talks to his ex
- He leaves his phone unlocked where you can read hi messages without him knowing
- He offered to cut contact with her for you
I'm sorry but the only one in the wrong here IMO is you. You snooped through his phone and are using what you found (which he told you was there and is completely innocent btw) to justify your preset notions that he is going to cheat on you. You haven't found any evidence of anything bad yet you persist in this idea. Not exactly fair and definitely not supportive.
It could be that him and his ex are better friends then they ever were lovers and he values her insight and opinion. The idea that he should cut off contact just because she is an ex is not very rational either. If he is going to cheat it could be any woman.
You need to make the decision whether or not you can trust him because if you continue to be suspicious when there is no reason to be. You will continually be looking for reasons to mistrust him and it will all end very painfully for both of you. Personally I think that you should tell him you snooped in his phone and tell him to put a password on it so that you won't do it again because you will do it again. You can't expect to be able to trust him if he can't trust you.
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