(((chor0nzon)))
I can relate quite a bit to your family and personal history. I feel for you.
Perhaps you should try looking into group therapy in your area. I really recommend DBT ~ dialectical behavioral therapy. It has helped me a lot! Simply recognizing emotions, learning self-care, self-respect, and building relationships as well as techniques to help you through tough times...that's what DBT is about. I think that it could be helpful to you in emotional and professional relationships ~ figuring out intensity and appropriateness.
Just my opinion, anyway. The only way that I can think of to help you is by advising you to get in to see a different therapist. If you don't have the strength to do that yet, then add a group therapy to give yourself more strength and you'll get there...it just takes a little bit of time and devotion to getting better.
Very best wishes...