Hard to know. We only get one side here, so it's hard to know what is perception and what was really transpiring. The OP said the therapist "basically reprimanded" and "humiliated" her which may lean more towards interpretation than actuality, but none of us were there so it's hard to know. The OP said she shut down was apparently visibly upset, so the T did step outside with her to talk to her, so that would point to the T trying to handle it privately. Hard to tell. My gut is this is a case of a parent having a hard time letting go and letting the therapy process for the child happen individually. It IS hard. I SO completely get that. Been there myself.