I'm confused if humans are in control - how does the mention of god fit in with that - is he in control? or humans?

Maybe this is a topic for another forum.

"Furthermore, how many times honestly do people marry for 15 years, supposedly "love" theres spouse and even have kids then unexpectedly they pass away, 2 months later , 2 years later, or at some point they find a new "love". "

Is this not a testiment of the love the spouse had for the other. Someone who did not know love would not want to re-enter?

"Also "best" friennds. What is "best" friends? To me its some word used to connect 2 people with a hobbie, sports,games,anything once that connection is broken they drift, thats not imo even a friendship."

I think that may be a friend - a best friend in the sense I use it is fairly interdependant in my life.

"theres nothing nothing nothing I can do about it"

I don't want to sound flip - but each one of us has the power inside to change - yes we all struggle with it, but it is there. Our free agency to do as we want, I believe was given to us by our Creator.

I don't want to sound agrumentative about your positions...It just got me to thinking about what you posted...maybe you can see something else...your first post seemed a bit hopeless...maybe this will challenge that thinking.

Please don't stop posting.