Whenever there is an argument between husband and myself and it leads to some sort of confrontation but most of all a reaction from myself, he immediately steers from the actual issue / origin of the argument (or what caused it) and veers to my reaction instead.

Tonight, I had very just cause to become angry and upset at a comment he made. When I did, he said "Oh, I would have apologized but I just wanted to see your reaction!"

Am I just stupid or was that uncalled for?

It has been a long time coming that I feel I am not allowed to react or have a reaction to a situation we are in. He is very mentally strong and I feel he uses this against me all the time.

He hurt me so much tonight.

My reaction was justified and I walked away before it became an over-reaction (I am proud of that!!). But his justification of always being right hurts somewhat right now!