hi dadhatesme
as mike says, your dad probably loves you in his own way, he just doesn't know the appropriate way to show it. he wants you to be successful, he wants you to have more than he had. he feels he has to push you to get that. unfortunately he is being very abusive in the way in which he is doing it and it is making your life miserable in the process. you are fortunate that you do not have many more years to spend there. you could actually get a job and move out now but you would probably be giving up your college education. as for your brother, just be there to support him. love him the way your parents aren't loving you. remember it is not about you guys. your dad is making bad choices. welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome