I agree with both of you! I know!!!!! I have thought this myself for many years now. I just find myself in an emotional abyss and completely unable to NOT react! In other words, I have to work very hard on my own behaviour ............ and triggers ................ and feelings ................. and thoughts .................. and hurt ................ oh goodness - this isn't easy!

( I should not even mention that the comment he made was because I was watching American Idols ....)