it sounds like some of this could be negative transference on your part, but she doesn't sound like the right T for you or really a good one. since you are attached maybe start interviewing other Ts, personally i would not tell your current T about doing that, and then when you find a good one leave this T. i wouldn't drag that out though. just meet with the new ones for a few sessions and then decide. if you can, get a recommendation for a T from someone like a doctor or friend. just don't pick some random T but do your homework and find someone reputable. another thing to consider is a 12-step group or group therapy. i did adult children of alcoholics even though i'm not from an alcoholic family and found it incredibly helpful to make sense of my family of origin.