I think that the gender of the T DOES matter (at least for me) as does the type of relationship. I saw a male T for a while, and really didn't experience much transference.
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Originally Posted by growlithing
"Anger transference"- where you are expressing anger at your T but you are really not mad at them and instead mad at a person from your past?
I don't know. To be honest, I feel like the word "transference" is something that people on this site use to describe having any sort of feeling at all for their Which is a little invalidating in my opinion. I have tons of feelings for my T that are actually about her and not misplaced. Plus, the maternal transference I feel is very real. I see her as mom. Yeah she's not actually my mom, but that doesn't mean the feelings are false.
I don't know. Transference is clearly a real thing but I just feel like people say if a lot to try and "justify" having. feelings.
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I completely agree. The idea that any feelings that you have towards your T can be chalked up to "transference" totally bugs me. I actually had this conversation with my T. I told her that my take on it was that some reactions and feelings that I have in therapy are definitely transference, but some of them are just
feelings-which I have because she is a real person, that I have a real relationship with, and she completely agreed with me.