Thanks for the thoughts. Wants 2 Fly, you are correct in that college is not for everyone- and he is one of those people. It's tough- his true love (other than me!) is music and he is such a wonderful musician. I wish he could find his niche with that, but that is difficult to do. Anyways, I think the main problem is that I need to learn how to accept that our life and decisions may not always be what my parents would choose and that they (and others) may pass judgement, but that ultimately we can do what works for us. Getting over caring what my parents think of me is a huge struggle for me for some reason. I feel like I'm constantly trying to please them and do what I think they would think was the right and safe decision. I have to focus on decision-making with my husband and supporting his choices even if it does mean "going against the grain" and possibly taking risks in life- that's what life is all about, right?

Also, I know this is totally off-subject, and I've brought this up before, but I still carry a lot of guilt about an affair I had 3 years ago (before my husband and I were married) and for some reason I feel ashamed around my parents especially. I feel that if they ever knew, they would be sooo disapointed and think so differently of me. On the flip side, I constantly feel like I am hiding something from them. Anyways, I guess I'm just looking for some reassurance here that it is ok to not tell your family everything in your life and to keep some things to yourself. I guess I just don't know how to grow up and think independently.

Please help!