As luck would have it.. I'm currently taking a Philosophy of Ethics class. It covers modern applied ethics. I enjoy it, but it's mind-boggling in many ways.
I have to think about things like.. what is ethical behavior? and What version of ethics makes most sense to me? I'd love to live in a world where everyone is thinking about the kind of world they would like to live in. Where everyone is concerned about doing no harm.... Where everyone is thinking about maximizing pleasure and minimizing pain, for themselves, as well as everyone else.

But, then I realize my own failings. There seems to be a pattern in my life. I say and do things and have certain attitudes... arrogance, pride, bragging, competitiveness, and then when people put me in my place, I feel hurt, and wish things were different.
I know I fail a lot, but I keep striving. Maybe the healthy periods of time when I am striving to be ethical will get longer and longer, and the unhealthy times, when I'm acting like an ***, will get shorter and shorter.

And then of course, one has to consider that some people care nothing about ethics. They will try to hurt you because they feel it is their right... And we need to find ways to protect ourselves from such people.

Our culture does appear to be one in which we are encouraged to think about how we are wronged, and to get even in whatever way we can....