Love grows in a relationship, it doesn't just instantaneously happen, so when there is no signs of the growth happening because there is no communication along the way.......then of course it would come as a shock.

Relationships are hard.....it's NOT people's hearts that are hard. Relationships have to be worked at to keep them on track.....friendships or intimate relationships it's all the same.....because it's about 2 different people with 2 different minds coming together from 2 way different backgrounds. Relationships are learning about the other person, what they like & what they don't like & adapting sometimes to those things (on both sides).....Relationships are a 2 way streed & they take a lot of work. You can have 2 people who speak very plainly & who are very open & it still takes work because 2 different people usually have 2 different ways of seeing things.....that's just how it is.