Please accept my regrets for spelling your name wrong in last post.

I honestly think you will feel it is easier to keep things from your parents as they age. My mother is in her 80s now, and there is no way that she is up to knowing about the details of my life: I try to protect her.

Is it possible that you can look at the information you withhold as you looking out for your parents? "Why confess my choices to them. They won't understand; it will only upset them, and so it's better that I protect them from that." You were a big girl when you had that affair, and although it might be upsetting to them, you had a right to experiment. I'll bet your parents haven't told your about all their indiscretions.