Woah, thanks for the great responses everyone. I think the challenge I'm facing here is the fact that I developed an emotional connection with my therapist. I'm embarrassed to admit this, but I knew the whole thing was going to be crap from session 2. I even found those TELL links on my own about a year ago. :S I have way more clarity now than I did before, so I think I'll give them a reread.

Coming to terms with this is going hand-in-hand with me recovering from the effects of my abusive family, and I'm going through the same process with other abusive relationships I've collected over the past 2 years. I'm at a much higher level of awareness now, so now might be a good time to move on. It's tough disconnecting from these situations because I am alone, but there are probably better solutions to that then getting caught up in abusive relationships (which is all I ever knew, honestly).

To the poster who thinks this is transference, I'm 99.9% certain it isn't because I only covered the highlights, there's been a lot of really questionable things she's done from a lot of different standpoints. Like, I feel completely stupid for getting involved in this ... it's not that I lacked awareness of what was going on, it's that I lied to myself because I wanted ---somebody--- in my life, and I already had some brilliant in-built rationalizations to tolerate and accept the abuse, gifted to me from my family. I'm sick of that crap. It's like I have a dual reality: the reality of what I really think and feel v. the reality forced on me growing up that I was born to be abused and mistreated.

My next steps are going to be checking out DBT and group therapy. My idea to prevent this again is to use my new skills and knowledge to keep out the creeps, and start connecting to people in a healthy, mutual way. Which of course scares the living crap out of me, but maybe it won't be as bad as I think. Who knows.

Looking on the bright side of things, this has been a good opportunity for me to overcome abusive relationships. Gave me a demon in person to wrestle with, to say it inelegantly. I've definitely learned a lot about myself and my problems through this experience, though I'm sure there were better ways to do that. Oh well, that's life!