I had to work on this too. It took concerted effort at first. I started with simple things like treating myself to breakfast or time browsing the bookstore. Eventually my efforts grew much more deliberate and involved such as going back to church choir and auditioning for and joining the city's symphony chorus. Life is so much more fulfilling now that I've deliberately chosen to nurture myself. I had lost that through mommyhood and work and depression, etc. over the years. It's nice to have myself back.