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Old Jul 12, 2014, 06:26 PM
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My partner and I have been together for 2 and a half years, I have a daughter who is 6 (from a previous abusive relationship) and I'm due in Sept. Before our unexpected pregnancy we were attending couples therapy sessions with a psychotherapist. My boyfriend puts me down all the time and often I do not feel like I can be open or share anything about my feelings in the relationship. I feel like I have been sinking emotionally and am becoming almost reclusive from others. He often consults all our relationship issues with friends but I feel like he only blames me for all issues within the relationship and chooses not to accept any ownership. I don't feel like I'm a bad person and I feel like I am a caring and loving person and now I feel judged by everyone around us. This is why I suggested the couples counselling as I could no longer continue feeling isolated from him telling everyone I am completely negative and anti social and I don't have any friends. I do have friends but I am introverted and there is nothing wrong with that, it is my personality type. I am so hurt. The counselling seemed to help at first but he continues to talk meanly to me and blame all our issues on me. Today I broke it off but it is not what I want. I am so scared to be raising a child alone again. I am 30 weeks pregnant and I just want a normal family life so bad and I am feeling so hopeless and underserving. I am 29 years old and so is he and when we conceived I thought everything would be swell. He owns his own home which my daughter and I live with him and we both are financially stable enough to support a child. My daughter has always wanted a sibling and I was so excited. I wish there was a way that he could be open to seeing how much he is hurting me by putting me down or telling me I am the negative person causing all issues. Always calling me anti social and snobby because I do not want to go out and socialize with all the people he backstabbed me with. The psychotherapist has mentioned this is emotional abuse in his presence and for a while after the sessions things got better. I have no idea what I'm going to do. I don't want to leave, I have never loved anyone like I love him.
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