> I was talking on the phone with my T last week and he said he couldn't help me with a particular problem of mine because he just doesn't know how.

Hmm. I do find that to be a strange thing for him to have said.

> He said he could help me get to the root of the problem

And he thinks that is completely unrelated to your overcoming it?

> but as for overcoming it he would refer me to a group.

Ok. Well, I guess if he doesn't believe he can help you on this then it is very unlikely that he can. Self fulfilling prophecy if nothing else.

> He said that I need to have confidence in myself that I can not do it and until then he can't help me.

That sounds backwards to me. Sounds to me like your therapist should be working on how to help you have the confidence in yourself that you cannot do it.

> I see him this afternoon for therapy and he's supposed to give me some contact number of some groups I can get into so when the urge comes I can have someone to help me through it.

Ah. I guess he is taking the overeating as addiction model fairly seriously. And the addiction model from AA / NA style theory.

I guess... It might be about weighing pros and cons a little. If it were possible for me to work with another therapist I'd be looking at finding one about now. If the relationship means a great deal to you and he is very helpful in other respects and / or there wasn't an option to work with someone else I guess there isn't a lot else to be done but to plug on, however.

Or...

Try to find an article / book on how a therapist with your therapists theoretical orientation CAN help someone with your particular problem.