Men who wear panties face a huge potential problem with their partners. I was confident, when I told my wife that I wanted to wear panties, that she would be ok with it. After all, I had previously told her previously, after more than 40 years of marriage, about my fetishes (ones that simply cannot be talked about in polite conversation), she had not walked out on me. She had responded empathetically, and commented how stressful my fetishes must have been for me. And the panties? No problem. In fact, she went shopping for panties with me. But her response certainly was not typical.

I've been a member of a couple of other community groups that hosted discussions about sexuality, one of them about cross-dressing — panties, bras, slips, pantyhose, girdles, etc. It was very common for members to say that their wives had freaked out over their panty wearing, and there had even been some divorces. For some men, it became a "Don't ask, don't tell" situation. My wife's response to such situations? "Why would any woman jeopardize a relationship over a few square inches of cloth?!"

Of course, if panty theft rather than just pantry wearing is the problem, well, then, it's a problem in a relationship, and outside the home it could become a criminal matter, in which case there has to be some psychological or psychiatric intervention.

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