did you ever think you may not be an animal person? or maybe you just haven't found the right pet? I have had dogs that have frustrated the hell out of me so I got rid of them because they weren't worth the frustration but then I had a dog that was perfect and well mannered and I had her for sixteen years. I would have another one of her in a heartbeat. you could walk her without a lease because she would stay by your side. she would get down when told. she was wonderful. I don't think it is about animals, it is about not being able to handle frustration. it would be the same with kids. they don't listen either. you just have to train them right from the beginning. anger management skills, frustration tolerance coping skills would help you deal with the feelings you are having. the pets are just being themselves. they don't know about respect. take care.