I hear you muse... sometimes I find myself thinking about who I would be if this or that hadn't happened to me. I like the me I have become a lot more than the me I was becoming before a series of tragedies changed me.

I think there are some tragedies where that doesn't necessarily fit... like the rape D was sharing. I really can't image finding a silver lining is possible from a rape experience. Surviving... knowing you can survive and live a full life after is certainly a lesson to be gained but seeing it as a 'channel of growth' is stretching things I think.

I'm proud to know you D... you are a survivor and you gifts to the world are obvious in how you express your spirit of joy...