Very long story short. I have been with my husband for 20 years..I am still in love with him, but it is breaking my heart. He hates doing anything together as a family or as a couple. I often go out alone or just with the children. When I am home he keeps to himself. If I press and ask him to go out with me and the kids, he is snappy and rude to everyone. I can't remember him ever initiating sex. We have sex about 4 times a year, but it seems like he can't wait to get it over with. I live for the rare times when he gets involved. .it's like a dream, but it happens so very rarely. I think he is unhappy, but he insiste that he is. I feel so alone, and have no idea what to do, I can't imagine my life without him but living like this is slowly killing me.