Just for clarification, i didnt say I hurt her SO badly, and that Im hiding a load of stuff. If your remove the embellishment the post does make more sense. Im just hoping that with the talk we had, and the desire for both of us to make certain changes in our lives, makes doing a tell all unnecassary as long as I can do this in the manner I belive can work, because as they say if there is a will there is away. I hope this clears some of this up, but thank you for taking time to care to respond,its this open and frank talk is why i have come here. And thank you for suggesting assistance through my school i hadnt thought of that.