My goodness you have been thru so much. And with three small children to raise and so much responsibility. I applaud you for keeping it together so well. It is a shame that your husband seems to be verbally, emotionally abusive. Perhaps he needs counseling too, but it's hard to make another person submit to that. I am not one to tell you what to do in this situation but I wish you the best. Keep posting to us. We care about you.