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Originally Posted by RTerroni
I just think that boundaries should be flexible.
For instance when I was at the beach yesterday I stopped by one of my favorite stores on the boardwalk when the have literally shelves and shelves of vinyl (records) and I have somewhat of a hobby in collecting vinyl so if I had happened to see my Therapist there than there is no reason whatsoever why we can't have a good discussion in what type of vinyl we like to listen to and even what bands/artists we enjoy listening to on vinyl, since I have literally thousands and thousands of bands/artists that I like there is almost a certainty that there will be some that we both enjoy.
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There are a multitude of reasons why you cannot have this discussion -- all or any or which can be going on inside your therapist's head. You do not get to decide for her what she thinks or what she wants or with whom she chooses to have a discussion in her free time. I think Stopdog's signature line really applies here: Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Just because you want someone to behave a certain way in interactions with you does not give you the right to force the other person to do so.
You obviously can choose not to continue a therapeutic relationship with someone who chooses not to chat with you in public, but let's don't try to pretend like it's the other person who is imposing on you by holding to her own boundaries.