BeteNoire:...I've dealt with the problem of explaining colour to a blind person...you must use, as direction, what other senses the blind one has left--taste, smell etc. For the Narcissist, empathy for others is nearly non-existent...empathy for themselves is generally unhindered so:

Lute: Since the objective in nearly all narc relationships is the gathering of supply, if the narc is not clever, or is wasteful in the cultivation of the supply, the person they are 'feeding' off, might just leave. It has been known to happen. And while a true 'malignant narcissist' can simply find another source, that DOES require work...and narcs are not known for creation...only for maintaining (and usually at the lowest expression of effort as possible). In other words....it's too hard to find another when the one they've already groomed is right there, offering what they need. So...that said, if they bring 'serious distress' to their supply..that supply might leave. Or be taken away, by someone who is less hurtful to be with.

And then....Lute...a narc will feel hurt. And anger. And rejection. All of the things that the person THEY'VE hurt, they've treated clumsily or who they may have discarded......felt.

Who am I? I'm the mirror. I have always been. مرآة Mirat...the mirror.

The problem being, of course, that I am reflective...only. Within the mirror is glass...fragile, and sharp.