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Originally Posted by shakespeare47
^ Sure, life is subjective. But, when I'm seeing someone who I hope can help me through some issues... I'm not looking for someone who will tell me manipulative stories and/or get me entangled in a confidence game. (you have to learn to trust... I'm an expert... this works, you just have to give it a chance..., etc, etc, etc.)
I'm also a skeptic and a rational thinker. When someone tells me something, I'm usually thinking something like "but, how do you know? or "what makes you think so". The alternative seems to me to be the type of person who just buys into whatever is being promoted without using any critical thinking.
I'm also quite comfortable asking anyone, therapists included... "are you sure about that?".
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idk. i consider myself a rational thinker (and lover of science). i guess my t doesn't tell me manipulative stories or play games. like, we just chat. he's a dbt and that's been studied as effective by science. i'll roll with it. sure it doesn't work for everyone, but there's some level of science surrounding it.
my t also doesn't think he has magical answers. and i've never heard the words 'i'm an expert' even tho dude has his phD. i guess in this case, we both have a goal - get me healthy - and we'll look at different methods as needed. he certainly hasn't had a problem noting that while dbt has helped me cope in a way that's not self-destructive, it also hasn't solved my depression.
maybe that's why he's an ideal t for me. he's constantly looking at his own assumptions and mine, challenging and willing to put it to a discussion. it is subjective and yet at the same time, it doesn't have to be me putting blind trust in him. i do trust him after years of therapy because he has demonstrated trustworthiness.
how do we know what we know? epistemology and all its wonders lol.