You're right, he's been very upfront with me about everything. That said, your point that he may value her insight and opinion is difficult for me to comprehend and accept, given that he has told me so many times how badly she treated him and how much she messed him up. With that baggage, why would he care about her insights or opinions? It just doesn't make any sense to me. But maybe even he doesn't even fully understand why he's still talking to her. We talked about it on Thursday night, and he told me that he doesn't need to talk to her. I said "it's up to you" and rolled away from him in bed. He looked so unbelievably sad when I did that, and then the conversation just ended. At this point he knows my feelings on the situation and he has to make a decision.

Meanwhile, I know that I have to just trust him or walk away. I've met his family, he's learning my native language this summer (he's already somewhat conversational in it but wants to get fluent), he wants to take dance classes with me, he's been incredibly supportive through my ups and downs with my career, and he tells me all the time how much he likes me and how lucky he is to have found me. I either let my insecurities get the best of me, or I have to trust and know in my heart that his feelings for me are true.