we've been together for 2 years, friends for 6 years. I lied to him 2 years ago before we got together about stupid things. I finally came clean with the lies 2 months after first admitting I lied. I promised him then that I would never lie again and I haven't. I understand the lack of trust makes any relationship difficult, yet we still get ended up getting together after I lied. I have spent the past 2 years in ABSOLUTE HELL. I believe he is NPD and i've gone through all sorts of abuse trying to show him that i'm not a liar or a bad person. 2 years ago i made a mistake by lying to my friend. I want out of this relationship. I have begged and pleaded to break up, but he won't let that happen. He says he loves me. He's trying to change his verbally abusive ways, however there are fundamental things that I just don't want in a man and he doesn't accept that. He has told me that in order to trust me and so we can "move on" he wants me to take a lie detector test. I have nothing to hide so that's fine. However I can't live with that in a long term relationship. I want to have kids one day, what am I going to tell them "before we had you, your daddy called me a fat c*** and didn't believe a word i said, so I had to get strapped in and wired up so I proved to him I wasn't lying". Not something I want in my story of life. Everyday I get asked if I'm "doing" someone else, everyday I get indirectly accused of cheating. EVERYDAY. We've been talking about this lie detector for over a year and a half. I've never once said I won't take it. I have nothing to hide. But he doesn't understand the emotional consequences it takes on me. What am I, on freakin' Maury Povich or Jerry Springer? I want to break up with him, he won't let me. I hate myself, I hate him and I hate this relationship. It has completely destroyed me.
Does anyone think that passing a lie detector test will help a relationship? I wonder what the statistics are of relationships staying together after going through one. I want out regardless.