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Originally Posted by Nat92
I know that, it's just super hard when everything seems to come crashing down on me year after year and my family has such bad luck. We haven't had 1 year, just 1 year, where something didn't happen. Accidents, death, family issues, problems, economy. And I always feel that it's my duty to help, because that's how I am, I feel I'm being selfish if I don't and I can't have that.
I've never put myself first, I take on every bad negative feeling, make it my own just to ease their pain. I want to help so bad and I hate it that I can't...
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Nat, I'd seriously say that if you get the chance to do something like CBT you might find it really helpful. Taking on other people's pain and then getting low because you can't change it whilst very commendable because you want to help, isn't sustainable! You'll just burn out (I work in healthcare and I had to learn that lesson the hard way)
To be honest I tend to feel if you make the genuine offer to sit and listen or say is there anything practical that you can do for people then most people will feel that it's enough that you've acknowledged and validated their feelings, they wouldn't want to see you pull yourself to pieces .
I'm hoping I've written that in such a way that it doesn't seem rude or judgmental because it is a very human thing to want to help and like I said commendable