Completely - and for whatever it's worth, i find the Radical Acceptance part of DBT especially stupid. My mind won't work like that. But who cares right? Gradually though, through DBT or not you'll find your way. As we get older we have less tolerance for the same old crap we're put through. It's natural to want our own lives and to make our own decisions. It's just that for whatever reason, you're not be able to give yourself more fully to such an idea yet. You WILL though. I used to hate being honest with people or saying more how i felt rather than what they wanted to hear. I'm still not a 'manipulator' but i'm just too tired and hard bitten to be far less than direct these days. We DO change, maybe not massively, or quickly enough, but i've noticed a difference in myself despite having had a terrible time of it and still being only 23. Keep on keeping on