I can speak from experience about this topic, although I've never been turned on by diapers — I'm old enough so that I can have bad dreams about having to wear them, and I don't want to tempt fate by wearing them before I need to. But I do use feminine incontinence pads frequently, and my underwear, mainly panties, needs to be washed very often!

I've been enjoying my fetishes — urophilia and coprophilia — since I was about 12 or 13, and I'm now 71. And, in almost all that time, I struggled against feelings of inferiority and the "knowledge" that I was a freak. I seriously believed, in all the years before the internet arrived, that I was unique in all the world.

Finally, about five years ago, I had the courage to bring up the topic of my fetishes with a psychologist. She told me that my fetishes are not all that unusual, and gave me a big hug at the end of the session. Another psychologist, a few months later, told me to go ahead and enjoy my fetishes as often as I wanted, wherever I wanted, within reason, of course: the only important considerations were my own feelings about my fetishes, and whether I was forcing or coercing anyone else into joining me (which I don't do). My wife was with me for that last session, and fully agreed with the psychologist.

My wife now knows about my fetishes, and accommodates me. She knows that if I start the washing machine, I've been enjoying myself, and it's of no concern to her. She only wants me to be content with everything in my life, including my sexuality.

By the time a person begins "practising" a fetish, it's become hard wired into their personality, and nothing short of actual or chemical castration will prevent a person from continuing with it. The challenge is learning to live with it. As handicaps go, using diapers is something a lot of truly handicapped people would gladly trade for.

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