My wife and I have a similar situation. She is suffering from low libido, while mine is pretty much as high as ever.

Age no doubt has a lot to do with this. She will soon turn 69, and I am 71. We've never been like a couple of rabbits, but weekly dates have been our routine up until several months ago. Now we may go as much as two weeks between dates, a bit too long for me, just about right for her. She encourages me to masturbate if necessary, and says she will "help" me if I wish, but "sex" for her involves a lot of kissing and touching, which she's not interested in when her libido is low. For most of my life, masturbation has been a problem for me, not because I can't do it, but I have always felt so "dirty" afterwards. Despite some positive changes in my feelings about myself and sex, I do sometimes get pretty horny but unable to help myself.

The good news is that when we do have a date, it's pretty hot, to use a term that I guess my generation doesn't often use. My orgasms in recent years have been better than ever, perhaps in part because I'm now wearing sexy panties when we have a date, something I always wanted to do but was afraid to mention. I finally did mention it, and my wife was fine with it. Even went shopping for panties with me!

I'm rambling, obviously. I guess my best advice is to be patient, help yourself as best you can, and communicate! It may be that both of you are holding back some feelings and information that might be crucial. It's possible to spend a whole lifetime not communicating, but it certainly doesn't lead to a happy sexual relationship.

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