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Originally Posted by hurting__
...but I do. My ex and I were together for 4 years and broke up six months ago. I still madly love him and I want nothing more than to have him back. But the problem is, I should hate him. He cheated numerous times, occasionally physically abused me, and even now when I speak to him, he still speaks to me like I'm dirt. But I still keep crawling back, and all my brain keeps telling me is that I need him and I love him and that I need him back. He told me he's trying to change. He wants to get back together. But my family hates him. And I should too...I don't think he can change..sorry for the rant, I just feel so angry at myself..I shouldn't love him! I should hate him  I hate myself instead..why do I love him so much? Why can't I get over the ***?
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THE ONLY WAY YOU ARE GOING TO GET OVER HIM IS TO CUT OFF ALL CONTACT..I LEARNED THIS LESSON WITH MY EX
as long as you keep talking to him, you are going to keep wanting him & loving him & missing him.
it hurts for a while but it gets better, been about 7 months for me.
i stupidly flew out to oregon to spend my ex's birthday with her.
worst decision i ever made, i thought if i went out there somehow we would get back together, all it did was break my heart all over again and prolong the healing process.
i begged her for months to come back home..to no avail
i cried myself to sleep almost nightly..hurt like hell.
i had a really hard time getting over her, 5 yrs down the drain & a really good and true friend..all lost.
i was devastated, you are going to want to get out and start meeting new people and cut off all contact..IT'S THE ONLY WAY.
i tried to keep talking to her..i felt like i had to & couldn't let her go.
the best thing i did was allow her to cut off all contact.
i could have kept trying and she would have took my calls..but i realized things were never going to change between us & even if we did get back together we would be back to arguing and fighting in no time flat.
the only way i could heal was to let her go & let it stay that way.
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I have learned that i and i alone am responsible for my happiness, most people these days are as reliable as wet toilet paper!
