Thank you, Avlady, what I ment was should I tell the pastor, at the meeting with my husband about my belief that I am Bipolar; or would that come across as an excuse for my behavior (over all attitude) in our marriage. Bipolar or not I have strong opinions/believe "the facts are the facts"/and don't sugar coat my opinions.

Until i learn more about the condition, I don't know how much of an effect it has had on how I relate to my husband. After he told me he would be willing to get marriage counsling he followed up the comment by say that he probably needed it more than I do.
We have been married for 7yrs now and he said he feels like he has been emotionally dead for over 25 years. He kind/dependable/easy going/but not affectionate/expects me to pull 85% of the weight/ sides with others against me-etc.
So by by declaring "I think I'm bipolar" at our first meeting might come across as though I'm saying "I have an excuse for having the attitudes I do...so now lets fix you. Do see what I mean?
I wonder if I should do the research/find a doctor/get diagnosed/the enter the outcome into the counsling session, allowing the sessions to proceed with the focus on how he and I relate/Our problems together.

Thanks again for your help avlady! After spend 5 hours on this site reading yesterday I feel so much calmer and not so overwelmed. Today I'm looking forward to learning about "Trigers" and "How to go about finding a suitable doctor/mental health provider!

Ya'll are awesome-I'm blessed to have found this site!