Since we've been together, I don't think he has ever had a job for more than a month. He's been extremely unlucky with it all and most often it isn't his fault that companies cannot afford to keep him on and so on, but I still don't know how much longer I'm supposed to wait around for him to sort his life out. He has been unemployed for more than twice the amount of time he's been in work, jumping from one temporary job to another.

I'm the one that has been having to apply and search for jobs for him, while he sits on his bum all day doing nothing useful or productive. I have achieved a lot for my age, and he has underachieved. I was a straight-A student, who got a job with a publishing company at the age of 17. I'm now 19 and working as a digital and app designer, while I study with the Open University in my spare time and freelance art. The best job he ever had was a stint in a Mcdonalds three years ago. It never mattered before.

When we first got together he was in college with two years left until he could be a fully qualified plumber. But September came around and he didn't go back. He is now at the point where he has been doing nothing for a year but a few weeks of temporary work in a factory (which he got replaced for someone who could actually use the forklift trucks).

I used to have my own house that I rented with a housemate. I loved it. She got a boyfriend and moved in with him, but my boyfriend still had no job so I had to leave my lovely house and move in with him and his parents. I thought it would be temporary, he was meant to find a job, we'd save then get a place of our own. But I moved in here at the beginning of the year and he still hasn't got a job, never mind any savings to his name. He doesn't understand why I want to move out so badly, but it doesn't feel like home there to me, I want a place I can relax in and not feel like a guest, or feel uncomfortable because his parents are arguing or something.

I always pictured my life different to this. I want to buy a house, have a family, work for myself from home while I look after the child and my husband goes to work. A happily ever after that my parents and theirs seemed to find so easily. I know I'm still young, but I am now at the point where my friends are starting to get engaged or have babies and their own houses and I just get so jealous. I want that to be me. I don't know if I'll ever have that with him if he has no proper qualifications and can't hold down a job, then he refuses to do any jobs that he seems to think are "beneath" him or something (won't work in a bar or restaurant, won't do basic admin work...).

Is it wrong and shallow of me to doubt our relationship based on this? I just don't want to scrape by pay check to pay check every month. He is so irresponsible with money and spends everything as he gets it. I think he has been babied by his parents his whole life and doesn't know how to live like an adult with proper responsibilities. I don't want to be his replacement Mum - just there to provide, cook and clean for him! I am not saying I want him to provide for me, I just at least want us to be equal. I've always been more mature for my age, so maybe that's why he seems to act immature sometimes - moving out at 17 meant I grew up even faster than everyone else who didn't have the responsibilities I did, I suppose.

I don't even know how to support him any more. He can't even be bothered to put the proper effort in to sort himself out, just a half-hearted attempt at finding a job every so often. It's not up to me to find him a job, plus if I get him an interview he never seems to get anything from it anyway. I don't know what he does wrong, it must be something or companies wouldn't keep letting him go all the time or not wanting to keep him on when they choose other people to keep on instead. I just don't know if I should think of my future, or wait around in a hope that he'll sort things out