It makes me feel bad because he gets so miserable about it. He confides in me, saying he doesn't understand and how miserable he is. But in my head I just am screaming at him "well why don't you try and change things then!??".

I understand that it gets him down, and that it must be hard to face so much rejection. But I don't understand what I'm supposed to do, I say to him that only he can change things, and he'll think i'm not supporting him. I come home from work and see him sat watching the TV or laying in bed and it makes me so angry. I ask him what he did with his day, and it will be nothing but seeing his mates, or sitting on his bum.

I love him so much, and he tells me he worries I will leave him. He asks me to promise me that I won't and I have to look him in the eyes and tell him to stop being stupid, because I can't sit there and lie to him that, no, I will not wait around forever for you to get your **** together. I struggle with depression, and in the times I need support I feel he is too busy feeling sorry for himself, or has to point out that he has it worse than me.

I live with him though, and can't afford a place on my own. Finding another housemate would be near impossible. He talks about our future, and he's so full of these big ideas that in my head I know are never going to happen. He makes promises that we will move and stuff, but he can't keep them.

I have somehow become so reliant on him, that I don't know how i'd cope without him. I couldn't imagine moving back in with my parents back to a small village, my life is here now. I just want him to sort it out. If not, how will I find anyone else who will deal with my depression and stick by me even through times in the hospital or dealing with living with someone who is miserable so much. Sometimes, he is so amazing that I think it doesn't matter about that he has no stable job, because I love him. But love will only stretch so far, and the rest of my life is defined by the decisions I am making right now. I don't want to waste years before I realise that he is never going to change, and never going to grow up.