[But this has always been a reaction to how they've treated me. Not that that excuses such behaviour or means i've abducated responsibility, but i'm not sure i would have even developed a personality disorder had i just grown up around normal people...[/QUOTE]]

Hi ifst,
I think after reading your post here again, that you're def onto something i'm trying to figure out.....why did this borderline thing with me develop and why?
I have to go back and review alot of reading on the subject...abnormal people will always have some damaging effect on us...esp. I guess in the early years....in my case I suspect it was one of my parents, now gone, but I was spiritually sensitive at a young age and even now I can remember of how oppressive it felt at times to be around her, even in later years when I had my own kids.....she was def messed up and I'm sorry for that, esp. in those days if someone were depressed or depressed post-partum in the case of women, the info just wasn't out there about how to deal with it in a healthy way. Anyway, keep posting,

Peace,
"help......"