This is the third week of husband's grandma visitation. She turns 90 in August. I have tried to be very kind and patient. It is hard, she delights in making people uncomfortable. I have greeted every bit of venom with positivity and changed the subject when i know she is winding herself up. I feel bruised. I know i shouldn't complain especially with a lady of her age but she will say;" oh I like this and this", so I go out and buy xyz then she will announce "well I don't like that at least not the way you have made it. Trying not to be hurt by comments as: You didn't bring up your kids properly, they can't speak German etc. The only thing that stops me being nasty back is respect for elders and booze. So tired right now . My sleep is starting to suffer. Can't remember the last time i was sober.