Personally i think you should try to go. If thid guy is willing to drive two hours he must be interested to meet you. Your friend is just trying to help.
I don't how old you are but I will tell you my experience with disclosure. I am 55 and have always been afraid to telol people. But my daughter who is 26 said "Mom, it's not a big deal. Ppl know more today and they just don,t get very excited about it." So once I get to be someone's friend I usually disclose in a positive manner. That way down the road if I am down in ed, I can tell then I am just depressed and not have to make up excuses and lie.
On the other hand, if you just CANT go, dont go. Dont force urself if you might cry or something. All u can do is the best u can.

Excuse the typos, my hands are shaky.