Should she have glanced then read his phone, when it was left open n her side of the bed? No. That does invade privacy.

I feel that you just quoted me, soccerdad to give a lecture on relationships and trust and honesty. A soap box.

I'll be honest, I have said I will not tolerate being in a relationship with a man, who was having near daily phone and text with a woman he'd planned to spend the rest of his life with, who never followed through on meeting. ..
Kept happening while I was at work, and frankly, seeing some of the love expressions online..by her. i was called insecure and selfish for saying she goes or I do. Didn't have issue with other friends, just that one..

Considering both yours and my own relationship history, can you see how going for each others moral righteousness won't work here?