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Old Jul 15, 2014, 12:44 PM
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Originally Posted by nth humanbeing View Post
I'm speaking generally.
I've been in therapy for about two years and something i feel has changed in me is my attitude toward people; i think i've become less judmental and now i often feel like nearly no one is to blame for their mistakes and imperfections (because we all have our very unique genes and our own circumstances and upbringing,so our choices are always affected by these factors).But considering this makes me feel like there's no absolute "right" or "wrong" (which i suppose is a good and recommended way of thinking) but when i think about these uncertainties, i feel like the ground is shaking under my feet,i ask myself : then how would i know which decisions are better to make?
It's really about what is "right" or "wrong" according to what you value in life. And values do change. You might be more understanding of others that may have been doing something wrong and that is helpful. If they continue to do "wrong" and not try and make things better, you may not consider having that person in your life. And this is so obvious, but you are not always going to make the right decision....that is OK we have all done that. There is no perfect answer to most things.
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